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“A good heart is better than all the heads in the world.” ~Edward Bulwer-Lytton

Buh-Bye, BS (Part 1).

August 9, 2018

I’ve been hearing a lot of blame and shame lately. Or maybe it’s just louder than usual.


It seems to me that even though they are not the same thing, blame and shame go together. Blaming is an active practice. I think of it as the act of declaring someone guilty for causing something we deem unacceptable.

Shame is more the feeling that results for the recipient of the blame. When someone feels shame frequently or long enough, it can actually become a state of being. That person then lives a life based on the strong belief that he or she is actually unworthy. Irredeemable. Unlovable.

That belief is a lie.

And it infects everything.

These next 2 weeks I will be talking about blame and shame. This Sunday I will focus on finding more helpful practices than blame. Next week I’ll talk about ways to heal and find freedom from shame.  (That explains the title of this week’s talk, “Buh-Bye, BS.”  Blame and Shame are the “BS” we need to let go.)

The truth is “Love IS all we need!” Not romantic, schmaltzy love, but powerful, divine love.

Unity pioneer Eric Butterworth said, “Just as a flower unfolds in the rays of the sun, so the heart center opens through daily meditation and the practice of the presence of divine love.”

In Love,

A Unity Love Prayer (from Unity “Courage to Imagine” booklet):

“I am an expression of God’s infinite love, and I recognize the divinity in each person. The love of God radiates through me to others, establishing joy, harmony, acceptance, and peace in my life. The power of the living Christ presence lifts my thoughts and opens my heart. I grow in understanding as the Christ light of love shines within me.”

Peggy Christiansen is the Spiritual Leader at Unity of Fort Collins. She has over 25 years of ministry experience working with diverse populations, a M.Div. from San Francisco Theological Seminary, and a special interest in helping people find and/or develop their unique spiritual paths. Listen to podcasts of her Sunday talks.