August 16, 2018
Last week I mentioned my plan to do a two-part talk on letting go of blame and shame. The first part was focused on the insidious practice of blame and how unhelpful it is. Our invitation is to let go of blame by becoming aware of it and then holding all involved – including ourselves – in grace and compassion.
This week I will focus on the topic of shame, which could be a month-long series in itself.
Perhaps you have heard the acronym for shame: “Should Have Already Mastered Everything.”
That is such a great reminder to get off the blame and judgment train and get back on our true path – the one that knows that mistakes are simply learning opportunities. However little or big those mistakes, our true path is one of love without conditions. Love without limits.
A line in my 12-step literature describes shame as an excuse to hate ourselves today for something we did or didn’t do in the past.
But as Elisabeth Kübler-Ross says, “The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.”
And there is the well-known verse in 1st Corinthians: “Love never ends… Faith, Hope and Love abide, and the greatest of these is Love.”
A Unity Love Prayer (this is the same one as last week, but it is worth saying over and over!)
“I am an expression of God’s infinite love, and I recognize the divinity in each person. The love of God radiates through me to others, establishing joy, harmony, acceptance, and peace in my life. The power of the living Christ presence lifts my thoughts and opens my heart. I grow in understanding as the Christ light of love shines within me.” ~from Unity Courage to Imagine booklet
Peggy Christiansen is the Spiritual Leader at Unity of Fort Collins. She has over 25 years of ministry experience working with diverse populations, a M.Div. from San Francisco Theological Seminary, and a special interest in helping people find and/or develop their unique spiritual paths. Listen to podcasts of her Sunday talks.