June 28, 2018
It starts even before we are born. Our mothers are told, “the baby is in the 50th (or whatever) percentile for growth at this stage.”
There it is.
The “stage is set.” We emerge and our parents measure us against what our sister did at this age: “She was one of the earliest walkers in the group, what’s taking this one so long?!”
For the rest of our lives, comparisons will be constant, both external and internal.
“Compared to other kids his age, Johnny is a slow reader.”
“My friend grasped meditation right away. What is my problem?”
“How come I can’t get decent employment when Georgina (who’s not nearly as smart as I am) can just waltz in and snap up any job she wants?
“Those people have no idea how lucky they are. They just go along with their little intact nuclear family, and their children do great and life is just hunky-dory all the time.”
Comparing is insidious. It sneaks its way into our lives like a slow-growing disease. If not stopped in its tracks, it eventually takes over and blinds us to our own wholeness.
Brugh Joy was an M.D. who went through a profoundly healing spiritual experience and then became a well-known healer and teacher. In his book Joy’s Way, he tells the story of a woman who had a mystical experience and was introduced to what Brugh calls “The 3 Injunctions:”
Make no comparisons.
Make no judgments.
Delete the need to understand.
Notice the first one is “Make. No. Comparisons.”
I hope you can join us on Sunday, as we reflect on what life is like when we let go of comparison and instead practice gratitude and presence.
I am blessed beyond measure. And so are you.
Peggy Christiansen is the Spiritual Leader at Unity of Fort Collins. She has over 25 years of ministry experience working with diverse populations, a M.Div. from San Francisco Theological Seminary, and a special interest in helping people find and/or develop their unique spiritual paths. Listen to podcasts of her Sunday talks.