June 15, 2017
In planning my talk for this Sunday, I realized that I have never given a Father’s Day talk at Unity. Coincidentally that has been since my own father died (the day I gave my very first talk at Unity on January 20, 2013). So it feels appropriate to me to honor him this week by sharing some of the life lessons he taught me.
When I think about my dad, I remember the definition of integrity: “doing what you know is right even when nobody’s looking.” I think about a person who treats everyone with respect whether they are talking to – or about! – the custodian or the president. I reflect on the incredible power of small things.
“Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” can be great as an antidote to perfectionism and an invitation to lighten up. However, there is tremendous power in paying attention to things that matter that may seem small and insignificant. It’s kind of amazing how those things add up to a life well-lived.
As Mother Theresa said, “We may not always do great things but we can do small things with great love.”
Dawna Markova wrote a poem (below) the night she found out her father died, expressing her sadness about the way he had lived and vowing that she would live differently. I hope you will join me in reflecting on these themes on Sunday. Whatever your relationship with your own father, I wish you a weekend of healing blessings.
“I will not die an unlived life.
I will not live in fear
of falling or catching fire.
I choose to inhabit my days,
to allow my living to open me,
to make me less afraid,
to loosen my heart
until it becomes a wing,
a torch, a promise.
I choose to risk my significance,
to live so that which came to me as seed
goes to the next as blossom
and that which came to me as blossom,
goes on as fruit.”
Peggy Christiansen is the Spiritual Leader at Unity of Fort Collins. She has over 25 years of ministry experience working with diverse populations, a M.Div. from San Francisco Theological Seminary, and a special interest in helping people find and/or develop their unique spiritual paths.